tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6687416392019868806.post5054623245257099898..comments2024-02-20T13:26:39.833-05:00Comments on Daily Inspiration - Daily Quotes: Meddling - 5 Questions To Ask Yourself Before Offering Helpful AdviceUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6687416392019868806.post-91407754647223483802019-01-29T13:48:31.494-05:002019-01-29T13:48:31.494-05:00Is it true, is it kind, is it necessary and why am...Is it true, is it kind, is it necessary and why am I still talking? - Posted on a Monastery bulletin board. Similar to the Serenity prayer as the wisdom to discern is the tricky part. Often I have found that especially in family matters the meddling or helping gets confused because the "fixer" feels obligated to "clean up the mess" of the "unruly". To add another huge truth to the subject is to consider how wealth is distributed in our society and the fears that surround those issues. I have been on both sides of this issue. Its a tricky one for sure.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11046989575867820579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6687416392019868806.post-64104236652169833792014-04-04T10:09:26.753-04:002014-04-04T10:09:26.753-04:00"silence is golden' is true to it's f..."silence is golden' is true to it's form, people ask for advice and for you to be brutally honest to them, but once the words are out there, you wish that you had kept it to yourself as you feel horrible when you see the hurt on their faces and still they do not believe you and you have become someone to be careful around.<br />Whose truth anyway?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6687416392019868806.post-59442621479192740222013-06-10T11:31:34.578-04:002013-06-10T11:31:34.578-04:00I guess at one point in time I did not see this as...I guess at one point in time I did not see this as<br />offering my advise before asking as meddling due too the fact that I am Mom and have lived long enough and experienced more situations, but<br />I see now I was wrong...thanks for this valuable<br />and informative advise..I will think before I<br />speak<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6687416392019868806.post-19878667419872509392013-04-15T15:11:51.369-04:002013-04-15T15:11:51.369-04:00There is warning meddling?There is warning meddling?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6687416392019868806.post-29099991749922675422012-08-31T18:47:02.137-04:002012-08-31T18:47:02.137-04:00WOW!! What an eye opener for me. I've been tol...WOW!! What an eye opener for me. I've been told often enough i should mind my own business. Well as much as i thought i was coming from a good heart, how untrue this article has shown me the bottom line is i am a control freak. What i think is the best advice from here on in is, meddle in my own life; other words take my own advice instead of invocking it on others. i to will be printing this page. It sure hit home. THANKS MY FRIEND. Sue/spirit.sue/spirithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02012270759686819840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6687416392019868806.post-59485349574814212292012-08-31T18:31:38.835-04:002012-08-31T18:31:38.835-04:00I've mentioned more than once to my boyfriend,...I've mentioned more than once to my boyfriend, a recovering alcoholic, that he is too busy to go to meetings, etc. More than once and it's up to God. THANK YOU Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6687416392019868806.post-7824272608435730772009-12-26T08:13:56.358-05:002009-12-26T08:13:56.358-05:00In my culture, not to do what you call 'meddli...In my culture, not to do what you call 'meddling' is sheer social irresponsibiltyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6687416392019868806.post-23719703124297806922009-10-13T14:46:49.100-04:002009-10-13T14:46:49.100-04:00To "neck deep" - Your point is certainly...To "neck deep" - Your point is certainly valid in many cases. Sometimes trouble is real and pride does get in the way of receiving help. An example would be someone who is hungry because their pride stops them from accepting a gift of food.<br /><br />On the other hand, suppose that my adult daughter chooses to marry someone who I "know" is not a good choice for her. In this case, I assert that a well-meaning effort to derail the relationship would be meddling.<br /><br />The truly useful kind of help is very seldom in the form of ADVICE.<br /><br />Whenever you are tempted to give advice to another adult, ask yourself why you are so sure that your opinion should carry more weight in THEIR life than their own desires and choices.Jonathanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12400161716445466746noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6687416392019868806.post-59348349568914119832009-10-13T12:54:20.731-04:002009-10-13T12:54:20.731-04:00There some people who are neck deep in trouble but...There some people who are neck deep in trouble but they don't know how to reach out and ask for help. Even when people offer to help, they refuse it until they can't hold off anymore. Sometimes it's due to 'foolish' pride and sometimes shyness. Whatever it is, I believe it is right to 'meddle' in the lives of our loved ones. When the problem starts, it will be everyone's issue if we don't.<br />At the same time, we should be prepared in case they push back.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6687416392019868806.post-70232614428595571112009-09-26T09:32:39.513-04:002009-09-26T09:32:39.513-04:00I will also print and reread for myself. Very goo...I will also print and reread for myself. Very good information .<br />God Bless youAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6687416392019868806.post-7854707988016660112009-08-25T13:40:52.391-04:002009-08-25T13:40:52.391-04:00How funny, I just had this discussion with my boyf...How funny, I just had this discussion with my boyfriend last night. He wants to "fix" his sister, a hoarder, whether she wants, or is ready, to be fixed or not. When I told him he was meddling, he made it about me, instead. Oh, well.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6687416392019868806.post-77420236883054007952009-08-24T09:26:44.114-04:002009-08-24T09:26:44.114-04:00Regarding Anonymous August 24, if your friend is
a...Regarding Anonymous August 24, if your friend is<br />a true friend that you can trust, then e-mailing<br />her the above message should not be a problem, she would actually appreciate it. However, if she is only an aquaintance, then you are right,<br />not to meddle. My best girlfriend and I always<br />respect each other for making each other aware of our shortcomings and learning from them. There is a fine Line between meddling and caring<br />enough to help one's trusted friends. Of course<br />it has to be a trusting relationship. Oops, am I<br />meddling? One thing I know for sure, we know by<br />the response of the Receiver if we have meddled. Silence sure can be golden most of the time. I am learning this as well. God bless.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6687416392019868806.post-77346570956621920832009-08-24T09:04:56.460-04:002009-08-24T09:04:56.460-04:00I was about to email this page to a friend who wor...I was about to email this page to a friend who works overtime giving advice and then I stopped!<br />Oh my goodness . . . I had to admit she has never asked for suggestions on how to mind her own business so I will just continue to love her and keep my advice to myself.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6687416392019868806.post-17191410490879285782009-08-02T10:22:28.773-04:002009-08-02T10:22:28.773-04:00Good advice!Good advice!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6687416392019868806.post-59589872622905835202009-07-26T10:31:15.218-04:002009-07-26T10:31:15.218-04:00Unsoliciated advice is also a form of control/scru...Unsoliciated advice is also a form of control/scrutiny. When you remove the 'Wizards bells, whistles and promises', often the lack of trustworthiness is revealed. It is quite a life lesson.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6687416392019868806.post-84345779755433386122009-07-20T22:33:31.717-04:002009-07-20T22:33:31.717-04:00I have to agree. This was so to the point and str...I have to agree. This was so to the point and straight to the heart. Thank you for being so out there with your words!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6687416392019868806.post-31986987102903904012009-07-18T01:35:16.077-04:002009-07-18T01:35:16.077-04:00Thank you! I am printing and keeping this. I can s...Thank you! I am printing and keeping this. I can see where I have meddled when I offered opinions and assistance. I will keep these close and in mind. If I can memorize these, I will better control giving undesired advice to my adult children! ;-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com