tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6687416392019868806.post4353942683858082928..comments2024-02-20T13:26:39.833-05:00Comments on Daily Inspiration - Daily Quotes: The #1 Secret of Great RelationshipsUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger33125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6687416392019868806.post-70368750745873282772015-07-11T08:21:19.262-04:002015-07-11T08:21:19.262-04:00I would like to make an additional to my original ...I would like to make an additional to my original comments. If you are unable to find your "soulmate" that is okay as there are all sorts of loves, self-love, love of friends, family, children, grandchildren, etc. Love of having a purpose, spiritual love, etc. so just because it isn't with a "partner" does not mean you cannot be happy and fulfilled in life. Sometimes, it is just not meant to be in this life:) Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10122306987516731759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6687416392019868806.post-42018865029294826232015-07-11T08:12:03.415-04:002015-07-11T08:12:03.415-04:00I think these comments/article are somewhat contra...I think these comments/article are somewhat contradictory. Don't ask them to change at all, just accept them for whom they are BUT on the other hand, you can ask to modify behaviors. One commentator says, "Don't compromise!" I think as human beings, one of our basic traits, and fundamental rights, is to evolve and change to become the best person we can be and not ignore the lessons that life presents to us. In a relationship, yes, you do change and grow, that is inevitable and hopefully, your partner wants to do so also. It is okay for you both to talk about your needs and wants so one does not out distance the other. I think it is important to do this with love, genuine respect and understanding, while still remembering what made you fall in love in the first place. I also agree (and from experience) if a person is stuck in their ways and for whatever reason, wants to remain stagnant, and unwilling to bend, they will NOT CHANGE, no matter what. Good luck to all of us in finding the "right" soulmate....Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10122306987516731759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6687416392019868806.post-52742381931127747092013-02-14T06:04:29.340-05:002013-02-14T06:04:29.340-05:00i love so much someone that cannot be mine and wil...i love so much someone that cannot be mine and will never be. i just love him the way he is. we are in the best of friendship no matter what. it is something more of an unconditional love. i love him and to see him happy is all that matters. i do not understand but i pray hard that i might not seek so much to be loved as to love. today, valentines day, i do love him more but just can't say it. i can only look up and wish him to be there for me always. i feel complete to love him even through the distance. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6687416392019868806.post-83633248737450099422012-06-07T22:20:27.092-04:002012-06-07T22:20:27.092-04:00i understand more better now... that i have to acc...i understand more better now... that i have to accept him for what he really are..<br />and that he too had to accept me also..Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6687416392019868806.post-71923175689951982032012-02-14T06:59:17.745-05:002012-02-14T06:59:17.745-05:00never compromise..i know they say opposites attrac...never compromise..i know they say opposites attract and the physical attraction is so great..but if there is no compatability in doing similiar activities..biking .skiing running...etc...then that is one hill hard to climb...my experienceAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6687416392019868806.post-9765907779824373392012-01-13T17:07:57.248-05:002012-01-13T17:07:57.248-05:00Is it asking them to change when you want them to ...Is it asking them to change when you want them to do the things they used to do? <br /><br />First, it's always okay to ASK people to behave differently. The problem comes from demanding they change - especially demanding they change "for their own good."<br /><br />I am guessing you are probably thinking being more romantic earlier in the relationship - inviting you on dates, holding the car door, etc.<br /><br />Yes, ask nicely - but don't demand or expect. Also look at what you could do to rekindle the romance.Jonathanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12400161716445466746noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6687416392019868806.post-44578225190493586052012-01-13T16:24:45.941-05:002012-01-13T16:24:45.941-05:00Is it asking them to change when you want them to ...Is it asking them to change when you want them to do the things they used to do?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6687416392019868806.post-87354785213608091402011-12-13T15:29:59.412-05:002011-12-13T15:29:59.412-05:00nchairchic: I am so happy for you.
Loving one...nchairchic: I am so happy for you. <br /><br />Loving one's partner exactly as they are isn't always enough to create a happy relationship, but trying to change one's partner never works and always creates suffering.Jonathanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12400161716445466746noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6687416392019868806.post-9052509408815585422011-12-13T05:04:55.070-05:002011-12-13T05:04:55.070-05:00my marriage of 10 years was all but over, until I ...my marriage of 10 years was all but over, until I chose to love him just as he was and as he wasn't. the relationship we are in now is one I never could have imagined ever being there. love, commitment, mutual respect, joy...... I choose to be his girlfriend and by default he reacts as my boyfriend, all sappy again. it is soo cool !nchairchicnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6687416392019868806.post-26389011874596623832011-09-04T12:54:11.003-04:002011-09-04T12:54:11.003-04:00This is so true! I lost my marriage for a lot of r...This is so true! I lost my marriage for a lot of resons but I think the biggest one is because I always tried changing the things he used to do.After,being separated for 2 years & reading this article,i've learned a lot!!! Thank you for being such an inspiration,Jonathan! :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6687416392019868806.post-313663078649117532011-07-10T07:05:27.553-04:002011-07-10T07:05:27.553-04:00So true. Why is it so hard to do? Is it because of...So true. Why is it so hard to do? Is it because of my insecurities?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6687416392019868806.post-44393123711289186882011-04-18T05:07:11.208-04:002011-04-18T05:07:11.208-04:00One can not be changed by another human being who ...One can not be changed by another human being who did not create him/her,ours is to appreciate each other's presence in this world and see the goodness of the Creator because if it wasnt by one's certain behaviuor we wouldnt be able to learn what is good and bad,so ours is to pray for each other.THANDI MAPINDIKAZInoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6687416392019868806.post-12718522503686170912010-11-11T10:33:08.497-05:002010-11-11T10:33:08.497-05:00You don't change a person. You make him realiz...You don't change a person. You make him realize his need for change.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6687416392019868806.post-72909544630526423542010-08-02T15:48:18.329-04:002010-08-02T15:48:18.329-04:00to "hit home"...
Your partner isn't...to "hit home"...<br /><br />Your partner isn't going to change her fundamental nature, but you can certainly ask her to modify some of her behaviors.<br /><br />Understand that a neat house isn't as important to her as it is to you. Ask her to help with the housework because it is important to you - not because there is anything wrong with her.<br /><br />Also, look for ways to return the favor. For example, if she loves to party but you don't, fully engage in the festivities because it is important to her, and not because you are "supposed to."Jonathanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12400161716445466746noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6687416392019868806.post-40825936790390210262010-08-02T08:16:30.599-04:002010-08-02T08:16:30.599-04:00This article really hit home for me. I have been a...This article really hit home for me. I have been asking my partner, through bribes / nagging etc to change certain things about herself "for her own good" and for the good of our relationships (better communication about problems, doing her fair share of cleaning / tidying around the house, getting more exercise and being more active as a couple). Whilst I genuinely believe that these things would be positive and beneficial for her, and the relationship, this article helped me realise that it is not my right or my responsibility to change my partner, or even ask her to change. I understand and appreciate that instead I should show her acceptance and compassion. However, I'm still struggling a little bit with how I get my own needs met? I.e. by accepting this, I am left to do the lions share of house work, leaving me feeling frustrated at the unfairness and inequity of this?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6687416392019868806.post-9062748615284207302010-05-12T01:09:11.606-04:002010-05-12T01:09:11.606-04:00I like the passage/article. somehow, it brought me...I like the passage/article. somehow, it brought me to a wider understanding of partnership & marriage. Changing the partner for me, is such a hard task & is impossible. But if we know how to pray, God is able. He will show mighty things that even you can't imagine. Let's just learn to fully depend on Him, and all will be well.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6687416392019868806.post-69711017332677548942010-01-22T12:13:49.992-05:002010-01-22T12:13:49.992-05:00And if he really loves and cherishes you, he would...And if he really loves and cherishes you, he would change to please you. Thanks for my husband who pleases me always.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6687416392019868806.post-13017928777811919342009-09-05T02:06:12.402-04:002009-09-05T02:06:12.402-04:00It's impossible to change someone else.
I'...It's impossible to change someone else.<br />I've been married 54 years. Why?...because my husband and I balance each other out. We're complete oposites. He's loud,demanding,sloppy, and well educated. I'm quiet,submisive,neat and not so educated. You can say we comlement each other. We know it's definitely because of our inherited genes. SeeseeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6687416392019868806.post-32352115806726889312009-09-01T17:56:05.844-04:002009-09-01T17:56:05.844-04:00I think we spend too much time trying to fix what ...I think we spend too much time trying to fix what we can't fix. We forget that life is too short. The best thing is to make the best out of the little time we've got and celebrate love and togetherness. What we can correct we should correct, what we can accept we should accept, and the ones we can not absolutely live with we should move on or avoid. Do not let anyone have the pleasure of taking your joy away from you, life is way to short.<br />I am writing this from my life experience I spent a lot time trying to 'fix' siblings, relationships and family. Sometimes the harder you try, the more frustrating it is. Now that I have decided to accept people the way they are (still working on it because it is not easy), my life is better. It is difficult to see your siblings going about things the wrong way, but sometimes, you have to leave them to learn their own lessons.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6687416392019868806.post-86279889186198284992009-09-01T17:35:39.763-04:002009-09-01T17:35:39.763-04:00wow this really hit me. been married for 1.8 yrs a...wow this really hit me. been married for 1.8 yrs and most of my mis understanding with my husband is me wanting him to change his personalilty because in my mind that will be more beneficial for him especially in his carreer. but he did'nt see it that way. from now on I will love and accept him just the way he is.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6687416392019868806.post-62068213184428074792009-09-01T13:32:29.900-04:002009-09-01T13:32:29.900-04:00Anonymous- I want to love... It is neither okay n...Anonymous- I want to love... It is neither okay nor not okay to speak to others about their behaviors. Try it and REALLY observe their reaction. If they say, "Thank you for reminding me," you are helping them. If you get a cold stare and a grumble, you can be sure that your well intentioned comments have been received as nagging, and that continuing to bring up the subject will harm your relationship.<br /><br />Most everything that is important is VERY hard to do and to keep doing every day. If it were easy, we wouldn't need to consciously remind ourselves daily to do the hard things.Jonathanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12400161716445466746noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6687416392019868806.post-14879775606007775912009-09-01T12:29:28.866-04:002009-09-01T12:29:28.866-04:00I believe it is human nature to want "perfect...I believe it is human nature to want "perfection". We all have our idea of a perfect mate. We dont necessarily choose who we fall in love with like we would choose a new pair of shoes. I think that it is one of the hardest things to do...accept. Accept people the way they are, and accept the path that you are on. God works out all the details, and trying to change anyone whether it be a friend, spouse, sibling, co-worker...it is not our job to do this. This life is filled with chaos from everyone trying to impose their views on others and forgetting that we all have the freedom to be who we are. I lost my marriage due to drugs and alcohol abuse, and all the love in the world wasnt going to change him. As much as I loved him, he had to change for himself. I tried to change his bad behavior for years, unsuccesfully. Its been 6 years and he still doesnt love himself enough, how would he ever have been able to change for me or anyone else. He couldnt. The world would be filled with peace if we all learned to accept one another and love unconditionally. God Bless.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6687416392019868806.post-17579623228222820952009-09-01T11:03:26.026-04:002009-09-01T11:03:26.026-04:00I want to love my husband, family, friends, and ac...I want to love my husband, family, friends, and accept them just the way they are BUT isn't it okay to say "I care about you and I want you to be healthy and live longer" - not as constant nagging, but occasionally mentioning? Plus leave the room / the house if they smoke, to protect myself... <br /> <br />I don't want to be an enabler of unhealthy behavior by those I love - and all my communities and the rest of the world. That's much easier to write here than to do it every day!!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6687416392019868806.post-39272826902319128332009-08-09T10:10:50.926-04:002009-08-09T10:10:50.926-04:00Yes we must love our mate as they are,but at the s...Yes we must love our mate as they are,but at the same time If God choose our mate,The road block want be as hard,but sometimes we choose our mate,and it is our responsability to tell what the word of God say,and then let God do the work on them.If God choose your mate and the mate is not right,pray and God will do His will.It is God's will and God's way not your will.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6687416392019868806.post-46910909590658285112009-08-04T06:29:08.988-04:002009-08-04T06:29:08.988-04:00Steven Robert Witt
Yes.. we really can't force...Steven Robert Witt<br />Yes.. we really can't forced anyone to let him or her to change. we just have to accept them as what he or she is. Respect your differences (I Love You Just the Way You Are Stevei W )Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com