Begin with the FACTS

He who avoids complaint invites happiness.
- Abu Bakr

If you want reality to be different than it is,
you might as well try to teach a cat to bark.
- Byron Katie

To deny the facts would be illogical.
- the character Spock in the television series Star Trek

How is it that one rails against that
which is nearly a certainty?
- Mary Anne Radmacher

Do not rail against life. [Do not complain about life.]
Make positive contributions where you can.
Practice gracious acceptance elsewhere.
And express daily gratitude for all of life.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Some things you can change, others you need to work with.
But the worst choice is to pretend that things aren't the way they really are.
Begin with the facts, then make your choices.

Further reading: Don't Resist Life

Do What You Can; Trust God With The Rest

Serenity rather than Fear

I Will Fear No Evil